In the aftermath of a sexual assault or rape,
survivors can face extremely difficult and painful emotions and experiences.
Every survivor has their own way of dealing with the aftermath of sexual abuse,
while some others never really get over it. The effects of the trauma can be
short-term or last long after the sexual assault or rape.
Actress/Producer/Ex BBN Star Ifu
Ennada disclosed her ordeal on Big Brother Nigeria and how she got infected with
an STI. Creator/Host of #HotTalkWithBlecyn Ms Blecyn George Monsi thought
it would be nice for her to share with #HotTalkWithBlecyn audience on tweechat, how she was
able to deal with the outcome.
After agreeing to discuss this topic on the night
conversation, Ifu had a second thought on the day of the discourse and almost
pulled out, but Blecyn was quite persuasive and was able to
convince the ex BBN Star to understand the need of speaking out and become a voice for other women who do not have a voice, and yes she finally
obliged.
Read all about the conversation with #HotTalkWithBlecyn below:
Blecyn
George Monsi: Usual we start with a personality test
questions, so tell us one thing you'd never do for money.
Ifu
Ennada: There are so many things I'd never do for money, but
top off my head is this - I'd never trade sex for money.
Blecyn
George Monsi: In your own words, could you please
share with us what is “ADULT SEXUAL ABUSE”
Ifu
Ennada: I believe adult sexual abuse is any
unwanted sexual contact directed towards an adult or one that comes from an
adult. It includes sexual assault, harassment and rape.
I
believe adult sexual abuse is any unwanted sexual contact directed towards an
adult or one that comes from an adult. It includes sexual assault, harassment
and rape.
Blecyn
George Monsi: When referring to those who have faced
sexual abuse (male or female) would you rather call them VICTIMS OF SEXUAL
ABUSE or SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ABUSE.
Ifu
Ennada: The terms used here define different
things. Not all sexual abuse victims are sexual abuse survivors. Some get
depressed and never recover from it…they never get to the survival stage…being
a sexual abuse victim is not something to wish anyone.
Blecyn
George Monsi: To your knowledge, how does ‘Sexual
Abuse’ affect those who have been faced with it physically and emotionally?
Ifu
Ennada: It affects its victims immensely. Aside
my experience I did some research when writing and producing my film..I
discovered some people never recover from it. Some are scarred for life…depression;
trust issues and moments of bitterness are common with victims.
Blecyn
George Monsi: Most victims would rather keep their
abuser and the entire situation a secret. What do you think about secrecy by
victims?
Ifu
Ennada: Honestly I can’t blame any victim who
decides to keep it secret, because in this part of the world, most times they
get insults from the society instead of help. I haven’t heard the last of it
from these people who suffer this affliction of bullying victims.
Blecyn
George Monsi: To the best of your knowledge, how does
this abuse affect survivors’ relationships with the opposite sex over time?
Ifu
Ennada: Victims of sexual abuse suffer from
trust issues, I’m not sure if they ever recover from it completely to the
extent of letting the opposite sex into their world without any fears. I know I
still have my fears, but I’m more equipped to defend myself.
Blecyn
George Monsi: What advice would you give to a victim
of sexual abuse who ends up pregnant as a result?
Ifu
Ennada: Honestly I don’t know if I have an
answer for this because the life of a baby is involved here…but they should get
tested to make sure they’re not carrying any STI and take the decision that’s
right by God. They should also seek professional help.
Blecyn
George Monsi: You made it known in your short film
that you were sexually abused, how did you deal with it & have you really
recovered?
Ifu
Ennada: Honestly I don’t know if I’ve completely
recovered from that. I still have trust issues, I still don’t think I’d get
into any love relationship with any man, but I know I’m not depressed anymore
and I want to help anyone who’s suffered any form of sexual abuse.
Blecyn
George Monsi: If you see your abuser in a party, or somewhere
that requires close contact, what would be your reaction?
Ifu
Ennada: I can’t say how I’d react… He called me
some weeks ago, but I literally froze… I’m sure of one thing though, when the
time is right, I’d get him. He’s powerful in his own right and would frustrate
me if I sue him now…I’m getting ready, I’d make him pay.
My
short film is called Tears of A Broken Virgin.
You can watch it below:
Ifu Ennada's Biography
Born in the early nineties in Lagos state, Iheme
Faith Uloma Adanne popularly known as Ifu Ennada is a Nigerian award winning
actress, TV content creator and producer, TV Host, writer, dancer and aspiring
singer.
On Saturday, 16th of December 2017, Ifu won the
award for Best Actress at the In Short Film Festival. Her role in her movie –
Tears of A Broken Virgin, which was written and produced by her got her the
award. The short film got 8 nominations in total including; Best Film, Best Screenplay,
Best Director and Best Soundtrack.
Since her debut into film and television as an
actress in 2013, Ifu has been an active player for close to 2 years and in this
time she’s featured in top soap operas including MNet Tinsel and MTV Base Shuga
Season 4 and she played the lead in Judith Audi’s Obsession.
The young film and television professional from Abia
State, Nigeria, is currently working on several projects including the
production of her first feature length film – Ada Agbara, an action thriller, an expansion of her short
film Tears Of A Broken Virgin. Her new talk show 18+ recently premiered on
Africa Magic Urban.
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| Blessing Monsi (BLECYN) |
ABOUT BLECYN
Blessing Monsi popularly known as Blecyn George
Monsi is a screenwriter, a social media influencer, the creator /host of
#HotTalkWithBlecyn Twitter Chat, a Digital Marketing/Communications Strategist
who loves to be referred to as a Millennial Marketer. She has interviewed over
80 Thought Leaders with great portfolios from different industries including
top celebrities within and outside Africa via her Popular Twitter Chat
#HotTalkWithBlecyn featuring powerful conversations that foster youth
development, career improvement and social responsibility. She has written over
15 screenplays for film productions, and 2 screenplays for TV series. Her
website, www.blecyn.com is dedicated to showcasing her general interests in
life, from Ethics, to travel, to her food recipe and Behind The Scene (BTS)
from book lunch, and selected movie premieres. The website also have excerpts
of her #HotTalkWithBlecyn twitter chat amongst other great articles cutting
across, self-development and career improvement. You will also find really
great quotes on her website www.blecyn.com
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